Before you replace anything, it needs to exist. A Friendship is a special beast within the realm of Relationships. Friendships aren’t are easy. Trust me, real friendships are easy. They do, however, evolve like anything else. It’s a two-way street.
I’m tackling this topic in an upcoming series in Rainbow Brown.
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Copyright secured by Digiprove © 2017 Opportunities knock all the time, but it’s not always easy to know which ones to grab. Right or wrong, every opportunity is a chance to learn. The more we learn, the better we become. Sometimes, being better requires us to feel worse than ever before.
I’ve spent a lot of time wishing I’d made better decisions in life. It’s fun to think about how things could be different if I only just…
However, that’s a waste of time. My past made me who I am today. Now is not the time for coulda shoulda woulda didn’t stories. There’s no sense beating yourself up over shit you didn’t do. If you want to change anything, apply the knowledge gained from the lessons life has given you and commit to being better – not bitter.
Nobody lives while dwelling in the past. Nobody lives being trapped in a loop. Nobody lives when they’re not present. I’ve been there. It’s a self sentenced purgatory. Being alive without living is a lonely place. Eventually, I had to ask myself, “Do I want to live life or lose it?”
In June, an opportunity knocked hard and loud and it was unlike any other before. How it happened is another story for another time, but a friend of mine was hell bent on leaving Arizona. Scottsdale held too many reminders of things gone wrong for both of us.
We needed to go far away with relaxing with beautiful beaches, surrounded by the blue water, where people appreciate life. Somewhere disconnected from the U.S. version of the real world; a place completely different.
One place came to mind; a tucked away island in the Caribbean, the smallest U.S. Virgin Island known as St. John.
It started as a bad idea. Within 24 hours, we were in flight to paradise. Nothing says ‘I don’t give a fuck’ like booking a one-way trip on a private jet. If my friend is one thing, he’s fearless.
I had a breakdown that morning. It was the craziest turn of events I’d ever witnessed. He was dead serious and I was waiting for the punchline. I didn’t even pack.
My younger self didn’t need to remind me what to do with this once in a lifetime opportunity.
I had 30 minutes to throw my shit in a bag and hop in the car.
After 68 days on St. John, I returned to Scottsdale. My friend stayed. It was an opportunity for which I will forever be grateful. It inspired me in ways I never expected. The trip changed my life. It reminded me that it’s good to be alive.
Ok, so you’re not technically an ‘it’, but your life is. This is it! Does it get any better? That, my friend, is entirely up to you.
You – yes you – the person reading (and writing) this right now – we’re part of a unique team brought together (or otherwise connected) by incredibly rare circumstances that led us to the right place, at the right time.
Coincidence? It doesn’t matter. Somehow, we’ve crossed paths and it’s about time we have this conversation.
You sacrificed a lot in life early on. Remember? It doesn’t matter what you could have done different. We can play that game for the rest of our lives. Right now, it’s sudden death and the net is wide open. Missing this opportunity is unacceptable.
Life is what you make it so make it great. Your own story should inspire you. Focus on what matters, stay positive, and roll with the punches. Nobody said this would be easy!
You are your #1 priority. Timing is everything and your time is now. Always look after #1. Know how to put your self first without being selfish. Then, you can be selfless. The more you help yourself, the better you’ll be helping others.
Pay attention to your state of mind. Don’t lose sight of your goals, sacrifice your happiness, or devalue your worth. Always exercise your mind. Spend your spare time doing things that make you feel something. The fall from the cliff hanging above rock bottom is hard and fast. Stay on top.
Ditch the device life. Technology is useful if you know how to use it. There’s a vast difference between the world I see outside than the world I see online. Go see for yourself.
Be better than good. Good things happen to good people, but being good is only the beginning. Actively participate in life. Stay aware of your surroundings. Treat others with kindness. Honestly is the best thing for sleeping well at night. Know yourself by being self aware at all times. Most importantly, do the right thing.
There’s nothing more embarrassing than getting caught up in some bullshit, so stay out of it.
Nurture friendships. Who wants to be alone? Nobody. Reach out to an old friend right now.
Always ask, “why?” Curiosity won’t kill you, but lacking it will.
Do everything with confidence. Confidence is sexy.
Laugh. Every. Day.
(Try laughing at yourself)
Copyright secured by Digiprove © 2017 The sad part about hobbies is only a lucky few parlay their passion to career status. For the rest of us, a hobby remains…a hobby. And one we barely do, if ever.
We carry on in whatever existence we allow to continue. We cushion ourselves safely within acceptable amounts of negativity, fueling hatred of the current situation instead of creating a situation to love.
It’s only a viscous cycle until things go haywire and a downward spiral isn’t anything anyone wants to deal with.
The great part about hobbies is they make you happy and they inspire us to be better – to improve. There’s a fantastic satisfaction in creating something even if it’s a complete mess.
Dive into a hobby.
Keep a notebook by your side.
You might be pleasantly surprised when something ignites.
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