‘Bad Blood’ – A Story of Perspective

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‘Bad Blood’ – A Story of Perspective

All text in a box is from 2025.
Everything else is the original blog, verbatim.
Cringe and all.
'Bad Blood' - A Story of Perspective
November 16, 2015


Until the Bad Blood blog, my stories were about cats and dogs,
being fired, corporate nonsense, dogs, The Voice, Fear the Walking Dead, more dogs, and memes.

Trump was doing Trump things dismantling the GOP
while talking nonsense in the process.

Then terrorist attacks occurred in Paris.
Friday, November 13th, 2015

I used the Paris attack to give perspective on pop culture in America.

The blog alluded to my hypothetical friendship with Taylor Swift. I claimed that I was the inspiration for Bad Blood and owed her an apology.

I used a real tragedy to highlight larger issues than celebrity feuds.
I asked for her and Katy Perry to get back together.
Silly, I know.

Hard to believe that was 10 years ago.

Taylor released Reputation on November 10, 2017. By then, I'd learned a lot more about what happened to my company and its demise. Reputation resonated deeply as it aligned with so much of my life at the time.

In April 2019, I'd summed up the story of my company in two blogs;
Self Made Storyteller and He Gave and Hath Taken Away.
Taylor wasn't mentioned in either story.

Later that year, Katy showed up in the You Need To Calm Down music video.
It was a fun moment, but I didn't think too deeply about it.

Then COVID hit and I stopped writing.
2020 was 2020.

I spent the better part of 2021 reclaiming my mindset.

By the end of 2021, inspiration jolted me to life.

Optimistic as ever, I posted a Future So Bright blog in January 2022.

Midnights dropped in October 21, 2022.
Midnights changed everything.

Swiftie status locked and loaded, I still didn't write. I observed. Midnights led to The Eras Tour led to Travis Kelce led to TTPD led to 2025 led to New Heights led to The Life of a Showgirl.

End Game Gorgeous
The best eggs in life are free.
As far as I'm concerned, it's Easter every day.

Would you believe me if I told you that in 2002 I named my kickball team Swift Kick? True Story.

"As the men masqueraded, I hoped you'd return
With your feet on the ground, tell me all that you'd learned
'Cause love's never lost when perspective is earned"

Peter
Taylor Swift
TTPD

We unite with hashtags. We fight with hashtags. We beg for help with hashtags.

It takes a tragedy like Paris for us to see a wave of humanity. Then, we return to divisive behavior preventing us from learning about, or liking each other.

Technology evolves quicker than our ability to communicate. We read headlines and share them blindly. Online coverage of anything can be spun 50 ways, but our lives shouldn’t be.

I'm a mirrorball
I'll show you every version of yourself
Tonight

Mirrorball
Taylor Swift
Folklore, 2020

This story is an example of how easily we lose perspective. Satire and sarcasm are shared and people believe it’s real. Non-issues become issues overnight. Trolls and stubborn stances ignite vitriol.

You are somebody that I don't know
But you're taking shots at me like it's Patrón
And I'm just like "Damn, it's 7:00 a.m."

You Need To Calm Down
Taylor Swift
Lover, 2019

We need to treat each other better, and it starts with us.

I used to think one day we'd tell the story of us
How we met and the sparks flew instantly
And people would say, "They're the lucky ones"

The Story of Us
Taylor Swift
Speak Now, 2010

Pop lore says Bad Blood is Taylor Swift’s betrayal-anthem to Katy Perry. I think a dancer is involved, possibly a boyfriend. However, this isn’t about them.

This is about my hypothetical former friendship with the most coveted BFF in the world.

The first time I heard Bad Blood, I knew it was about me. I obviously hurt Taylor and I’m on a mission to apologize. I saw all her popular friends in the video and that hurt real bad. I mean I have tits too, I could have been a bad girl supporting a revenge metaphor!

Now go stand in the corner and think about what you did
Ha, time for a little revenge

Better Than Revenge
Taylor Swift
Speak Now, 2010

Here’s the situation.

We were supposed to be just friends
You don't live in my part of town, but maybe I'll see you out some weekend
Depending on what kind of mood and situation-ship I'm in
And what's in my system
I think there's been a glitch, oh, yeah

Glitch
Taylor Swift
Midnights, 2022

Taylor won’t answer my calls, and text apologies are lame; I’m laying it out so we can move on. Besides, there’s nothing more sincere than a public apology, especially, when that’s where the fighting takes place.

I'm sorry, the old Taylor can't come to the phone right now
Why? Oh, 'cause she's dead (oh)

Look What You Made Me Do
Taylor Swift
Reputation, 2017

The title says it all. Bad is bad and seeing blood isn’t good – let that sink in for a second. Now, think about Katy Perry believing that was about her. It’s been a lot for me to carry and my back is starting to curve.

I caused this, not Katy. Bullet holes is a
little dramatic, but who am I to argue.
She didn’t like what I said.
They say I did something bad
But why's it feel so good
Most fun I ever had
And I'd do it over and over and over again if I could
It just felt so good, good

I Did Something Bad
Taylor Swift
Reputation, 2017

I always intended to apologize but, like Taylor, I’m a giver and I wanted to send the perfect gift with my apology. But, what do you give someone whose other best friend is Hot and Cold who kissed a girl and liked it? I am a boy, after all.

Truth, dare, spin bottles
You know how to ball, I know Aristotle
Brand new, full throttle
Touch me while your bros play Grand Theft Auto
It's true, swear, scouts honor
You knew what you wanted, and, boy, you got her
Brand new, full throttle
You already know, babe

So High School
Taylor Swift
TTPD, 2024

I was watching Dance Moms when the bulb lit. If it were a dancer, it would kicked me in the head.

Create a reality show for Taylor!

REALITY TV (TRAVIS' VERSION)

I’m waiting for Taylor to name the show since it’s her show, and I don’t need another song written about me.

The show is about a dancer and Paula Abdul is the choreographer. Paula was at the height of her music career in ’89 when the world received Taylor – it’s poetic.

The show is in Vegas – every dancer’s wildest dream!

I was so ahead of the curve, the curve became a sphere
Fell behind all my classmates, and I ended up here
Pouring out my heart to a stranger
But I didn't pour the whiskey

This Is Me Trying
Taylor Swift
Folklore, 2020

Taylor is mama bird and she nurtures baby bird – a dancer discovered on Instagram – resulting in baby bird signing a Vegas contract without any drama!

I hit you like "Bang"
We tried to forget it, but we just couldn't
And I bury hatchets but I keep maps of where I put em'
Reputation precedes me, they told you I'm crazy
I swear I don't love the drama, it loves me
And I can't let you go, your handprint's on my soul
It's like your eyes are liquor, it's like your body is gold
You've been calling my bluff on all my usual tricks
So here's the truth from my red lips

End Game
Taylor Swift
Reputation, 2017

My wildest dream is for baby bird to land on Katy’s very own Vegas stage and perform an interpretive dance to Roar.

Can we see this again? Credit: Kevin Mazur/WireImage

Imagine Taylor in the front row while she and Katy crinkle their noses and paw at each other all cute like!

This will prove their blood is, in fact, good and she never expected any contract dancer (or boyfriend) to be loyal.

Lofty goals, right? I best get to apologizing.

The reason I didn’t name Taylor’s show (I’m thinking The Bird Nurturer) is because naming things caused our falling out. Taylor names everything. She names her songs. She names her cats. She probably names her fans’ cats. I think there’s a hashtag for that.

Kats or Cats? I can’t wait for Taylor
to unite Katy’s fans for her!
I was born in 1974 which was the year of the Tiger.
My elementary school mascot was a Tiger. (The colors were Orange and Black)
My junior high mascot was a Panther.(The colors were Black and Gold)
My high school mascot was a Lynx.(The colors were Maroon and Gold)
My college mascot was also a Panther.(The colors were Black and Gold)
Midnights was released in 2022 which was the year of the Tiger.

I even suggested she choose whether Katy’s fans are Kats or Cats. Bring a litter box for that shit storm! Fans of pop stars are a protective bunch, even with infighting.

Kansas City?

Even more protective are pop starts, themselves, when it comes to what they call their fans.

I see the typo. I said verbatim.

Our turmoil began when I told Taylor I thought she should call her fans The Swizzle Sticks with the hashtag #tswizzlesticks to unite their online musings. I told her I thought her name should be Mother Swizzle Sticks because she is like their mother.

Her face went blank space. Never question an accomplished artist’s creativity and definitely lay off their fans. Role models with millions of underage fans won’t refer to them as drink accessories.

She accused me of trying to turn parents against her by encouraging underage drinking. She reminded me she’s a role model. Then, she asked me, persistently, if I knew what she was and wouldn’t relent until I screamed, “Role model!”

She accused me of talking to Katy because pop star espionage is real.

The damage was done. Trust flew out the window like a baby bird.

She told me it was so sad to think about the good times she and I had, but now we got problems.

I asked her, can we solve them? She said she didn’t think we could.

I asked her, do we still have mad love? She said we used to.

That’s a no. I hope we can put this behind us; we were so good together.

In addition to her show (hopefully called The Bird Nurturer), I created a new app because she needs more cash. It’s called Pocket Squad.

Your squad walks around your screen while you control everything about them. It’s perfect for members of squads. You can make them get eaten by a shark or pace back and forth all day. You can make birds poop on them or strike them with lightning. They can live on a beach or jungle. It’s your squad!

Basically, it’s what you wish you could do to your real life squad.

Taylor, I’m sorry. Call your fans whatever you want. Come on, old friend – I miss our mad love! #think-about-the-good-times-you-and-i-had!

It shouldn’t take a coordinated attack to remind us the hostility among ourselves is senseless.

I hope we can learn to keep perspective without the harsh reminders.

After I wrote this blog in 2015, I never read it again until 2025.
I told people about it, as I did with many stories, but nobody cared.
I didn't have the drive to do anything.

I noticed Katy Perry's cameo in the You Need To Calm Down music video.
That made me smile, but I was in a bad head space. I didn't even care.
By that time, I thought the world was against me. Nothing made sense.

I knew, deep in my soul, something nefarious was ongoing.
I chalked it up to being larger than anything I could fathom.
But COVID extinguished any drive I had left for caring.

I never listened to folklore or evermore until Midnights.
But a switch flipped with the Eras Tour.
And it's been a crazy super added level of my awakening.
And here we are.

Maybe someday we can have nice things.
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The Life of a Storyboy

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Prologue: Sourdough

Triskaidekaphobia is the fear of the number 13.
Paraskevidekatriaphobia is the fear of Friday the 13th.

This is not a safe space for anyone with either condition.

Luckily, it works both ways.

I recently learned that if you replace “-phobia” with “-philia”, Triskaidekaphilia is the term for loving the number 13.

If you think 13 is lucky, you’re in good company.

Mindset is everything.

It's me, hi.
I'm the lover,
it's ME!

The Very First Night

It takes us nine months to breathe on our own.
Earth TtTime on earth is the real womb.

Birth marks the spot.

Friday, September 13, 1974
Year of the Wood Tiger

Travis Carl Garrod
Opened thighs at 8:34 p.m.
Providence Hospital
Anchorage, Alaska
The Last Frontier
The 49th State

San Francisco 49ers
Sourdough Sam
Levi’s Stadium
Super Bowl LX
NFL
SAP
Super Toilet Bowl

Generation X enters the chat.

Sourdough Swift Kick Starter

I was born and raised in Alaska.
“Sourdough” is slang for a longtime resident of Alaska, unencumbered by winter.
I lived there 17 years before moving to the lower 48 in 1992.

13 Takes Flight to New Heights

On August 13, 2025, Taylor Swift was the special guest on the New Heights podcast with Jason and Travis Kelce. They talked for two hours.

Several segments caught my attention, but the The Art of the Easter Egg changed everything. They briefly highlighted superstition, numerology, and the number 13.

Taylor gave a simple, yet important example:

Taylor’s favorite number is 13.
Travis’ football number is 87.
13 + 87 = 100.
Keep it 100.


All three of them professed their love for the number 13.
Jason asked Taylor what it meant.
She said, without an engagement ring, “It means we’re family.”

The August 13 episode set a Guinness World Record for concurrent viewers: 1.3 million.

Of course that caught my attention.

After hearing the numerology and 13 bit on New Heights, I made a list of my Friday the 13th birthdays since 1974.
There are eight total.
1974, 1985, 1991, 1996, 2002, 2013, 2019, 2024.
Taylor and I have six common Friday the 13th birthday years.

I followed the golden thread to each year to see where it leads.

It took me less than five minutes to realize I discovered a silky golden web of curious connections.

The connections kept coming. I couldn’t turn it off.

Much like the Energizer Bunny, I kept going and going (and going) down the rabbit hole.
In the early hours of August 24, I had an epiphany!

Wait...what?
Double take.
Is this real?
Triple take.
Holy shit!!!

I thought to myself,
I've only ever felt this good in dreams.
I found the missing key!
Finally!
The New Heights podcast
was a multidimensional message in a bottle.

I’ve now discovered that my entire life is sourdough bread crumby.
Very, very, very crumby.

Turns out, I’m a sourdough crumb dumpster.

The Golden Thread

One single thread of gold tied me to you

invisible string
Taylor Swift
folklore

I’ve always loved the number 13.
I was born on Friday, September 13, 1974.
I’ve loved the number 13 for a long time.

13 hits different when you’re born on Friday the 13th.
13 hits especially different when you turn 50 on Friday the 13th.
13 has even more significance when your September 13th birthday is exactly 13 weeks before Taylor’s December 13th birthday.

I just made that connection last year while Swifties clowned for RepTV (on which I think I can shed some light, metaphorically of course).

I turned 50 on Friday, September 13, 2024.
Thirteen weeks later, Taylor turned 35 on Friday, December 13, 2024.

For 39 weeks each year, our ages are 15 years apart.
For 13 weeks, our ages are 16 years apart.
31…13…uh oh.

In 2013, both of our birthdays landed on Friday the 13th.
Taylor turned 24 (12:12)
I turned 39 (13:13:13)

Looks like a triple golden birthday to me.

But wait, there’s more!

Speaking of golden birthdays, I turned 13 on September 13, 1987.
14 days later my oldest, younger half-brother was born September 27, 1987.

13 + 87 = 100.
Keep it 100.

If you think it’s weird now, 13 is just warming up.

Friday the 13th Part III: 3-D

As far as 80s horror, Friday the 13th has always been my favorite.
The first one I watched was Friday the 13th Part III.
It was the only one filmed using 3-D technology.
It was theatrically released on August 13, 1982.

Wait, what?
August 13?

Taylor likes to sew kids' purses and blankets.
Nice stitch; I think there's been a glitch.

The movie terrified me the first time I watched it. Part III introduced Jason Voorhees’ iconic goalie mask. I was obsessed. As a young boy, I played hockey and I was a goalie.

Jason was stitched to my birthday and a goalie! It’s fair to say, I was fascinated by Jason Voorhees. I’ve watched every Friday the 13th movie before and since.

I fully believed Jason would spare me if we ever crossed paths. He’s always felt like a silent guardian. We’re basically brothers.

Jason and Travis together, always and forever!

Meow

Superstition & Intuition

"The crowd is your king."
Thank you for that, old (hypothetical) friend.

Truth hits different.
Truth is a frequency.
Truth is a vibe.
Truth will fuck your shit up and keep walking.

Who would've thought a random blog I wrote on November 16, 2015 would be a linchpin for exposing truth a decade after it was published?

That’s some crazy alignment.
Anyone can do this.

I started writing 10 years ago.
I’ve been getting bready for this for a while.
Decades.
Five actually.

This story spans five decades.
1974 – 2024
50 Years
2025 and 2026 get honorable mentions.

52 years
13:13:13:!3

I had a lot of time to develop my 5UPERP0WER.

I call it IMAGINATION.
Some call it DELUSION.

Truth be told, I'm an expert in both.
Whatever it is, it's been a blast piecing this story together.

2015 anchors this timeline.
2020 could have been an ending, but fate determined otherwise.
(That’s when an Extra T (or two) was added.)
2022 (Enter Revised Ending)
2023 (Enter Tight End)
2024 (Enter TTPD)
2025 brought Trump back to remind us all why this was necessary and that karma is real.
2026 – Four dates to keep in mind: 1/1/26, 2/13/26, 3/13/26, 11/13/26.

The end is extra tight.

What a different a decade makes

After 22 years in Milwaukee,
I relocated to Arizona in 2014.

Within a year, I was a living Phoenix cliché.

I started a hobby blog.
Posted my first story

about cats and dogs on
August 31, 2015.

I spent several years exploring a passion I never pursued.
I did it for my inner child.

In August 2025,
everything became crystal lake clear.

Now that I’ve learned what I know, I can say, unequivocally, timing is everything.

I’m joyful and eager to share my story with anyone who’s…

ready for it.

Happy crumb hunting…

If you're interested to follow this story to see where it goes, go like the Devilish Smirk page on Facebook.

Let the games begin!

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5UPERP0WER

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Today is August 31, 2025.
10 YEARS AGO TODAY, I POSTED MY FIRST BLOG
ON DEVILISH SMIRK

I am currently working on a Devilishly Clever something
to share the results of this 10-year project.
More to come, but I am very much looking forward to sharing.
With that, I leave you with a snippet from earlier today.
Still nailing down the date.

It’s never too late to dream.
You can always discover, create, tweak, fine-tune, evolve, enhance, and achieve dreams.

However, there’s a caveat.
It’s work,
and not necessarily work you get paid to do.
At least, not at first.
It’s work that might pay off down the road.

Your imagination becomes exponentially more active
the more you open, stretch, strengthen,
and train your imagination.

Imagination training is exhausting for an activity
that doesn’t involve physical exertion.
The only thing you lift is your spirit,
which ultimately lifts you.

Whatever you do, do not abandon your dreams,
even if you pause for five years.

I haven’t made a penny with this hobby.
This was pure passion.

I didn’t start this for money.
I did it because it was so f***ing fun.
The only reason I’m here today is because
I poured my heart and soul into something
I was deeply passionate about;
my own life.

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Welcome to 2022!

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A Matter of Time

The tail end of 2021 hit me like a ton of bricks, but in the best possible way. As I’ve aged, I’ve become more of a feeling being, and my outlook on life is better for it.

It wasn’t until I was in my forties when I began to break down in tears about things that I may not have given a second thought to in my younger years.

Not that I've never broken down and cried before, but the more it happened, the more I embraced those emotions and allowed myself to feel things more frequently.

A good cry is as cathartic as it gets, and not all cries come from a place of pain or sadness.

The latter half of December, I had a lot of time to think, reflect, and introspect. By the end, I realized that 2021 was one of the best years that I’ve had in a very long time, and it was about time.

Overall, I’m a pretty optimistic person.

Lord knows, it’s hard to be optimistic much of the time, but I love a challenge.

Sure, I have bad days. Who doesn’t? It’s natural, and that’s okay.

Without the lows, you'll never appreciate the highs. That's just how it works, and that shit takes time.

Uncomfortable situations are the soil from which we learn, improve, adapt, and grow. Good or bad, everything we experience is for the benefit of our personal development. And then you die.

Some days, my mind can get the best of me. What can I say? There's a 47-year-old storm swirling around in there that could make Jupiter's look like child's play.

What’s Your Vibe?

I make a conscious effort to bring good energy to every encounter I have.

That’s important to me, especially as I get older.

That means bringing that same energy to my personal party of one.

Sometimes you need to dig for the gold.

In December, I had time to recognize and acknowledge exactly how transformative 2021 was for me.

I allowed myself to feel proud of how hard I worked on three important pillars of stability – work, exercise, and mental health.

My typical year-end reflections focus on what I’m going to do differently in the next year. But 2021 was different.

I don’t need to do things differently in 2022. Instead, my focus is how to keep the momentum going.

Life is about how you react and respond to any given situation, so behave accordingly.

I feel, very deeply, that we are part of something bigger; that there is actual purpose in our being, and we’re all somehow connected, continually learning, and constantly evolving.

But why?

You know when you know.

For me, it happened after turning 40.

Not that I became a different person, I just became more accepting of myself and finally fell in love with him too.

That was a process. Worth it. 5 stars.

For some, it may happen earlier – or never happen at all. If you get there, you get there, and it can happen at any phase of life.

You have exactly until you die to become a person you’re proud to be.

May the odds be ever in your favor.

New Year, Same Me

Hey kid! It's been a while! I hope you've been well. I haven't checked in on you lately, but I'm happy you've set aside some time to have this discussion. Carry on, sport!

What’s different about my life today than in December 2020?

Quite frankly, a lot. I have so much to be grateful for, and for that I am grateful.

Work

In December 2020, I was on a 10-week seasonal contract and getting nowhere fast on a job hunt.

In March 2021, the company hired me fulltime with full benefits. They put me on a pilot program for an enhanced customer experience for wedding products.

Before the end of the program, they deemed it a success and extended it indefinitely. Our team has more than doubled in size, and the company is doing extremely well.

It has been an absolutely fantastic experience, and I couldn’t ask for a better team of people to work with on a daily basis.

I'm really proud of what this team has accomplished and I'm very happy to have this experience under my belt.

Exercise & Physical Health

In December 2020, exercise wasn’t a thing and not at all a priority.

I was 46 and I didn’t work out, nor did I care about diet. I was 225 pounds with a biological history of high blood pressure and diabetes, and I hadn’t been to a doctor since I left Milwaukee in 2014.

Here's the 2019 goal I set, but finally accomplished in 2021. It only took two years, but that doesn't matter. I did it, and that's what matters. 

In April 2021, I began assembling a home gym and finally realized the true benefit of seeing personal trainers nearly a decade ago.

My January 2, 2022, weigh-in was 189.1.

With the job stabilized along with health insurance, I’ve gotten myself situated with a doctor and the medical care that I needed but neglected for so long.

Mental Health

By December 2020, I had gotten a little too comfortable isolating myself at home.

It’s impossible to ignore the mental benefits that come with loving your job, consistent exercise, and the peace of mind only bloodwork and prescriptions can provide.

My stress level is low, my confidence is high, I've met some really great new friends in the past year, and I'm genuinely proud of myself. Fact is, I feel fantastic.

I even dabbled in dating in 2021, which I hadn’t done since becoming single in 2016. What I can tell you is that my heart works which, honestly, was a relief to discover. To be frank, I kind of felt a little dead inside.

For me to feel the feelings that I actually experienced in 2021 was eye opening and reminded me that I am, in fact, still alive.

2021 was a year of lessons. And I paid attention.

You can't swing a dead cat around here without hitting a lesson!

The thing I didn’t do in 2021 was write. Not a single word.

2022 is looking better every fucking day.

From Now On

Great life experiences all depend on timing, circumstance, and the people you encounter. I’ve learned a lot about myself in the past year and I’m committed to continuing this journey throughout 2022 and beyond.

Maybe something magical will happen in 2022. I’m as optimistic as ever. Feel free to join me.

We all have much to learn from each other, almost as if we exist for the purpose of benefiting each other.

All of us.

At all times.

It takes a village.

You get what you give, so give it your all.

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You are the company you are.

Being pessimistic is easy and does not require critical thinking. It barely requires thinking at all; just reacting. And in a constant state of reaction is where loose cannons are born.

Pessimism is a negative response to something that makes you feel a negative way.

Like I said, it’s easy. It’s aggressive, dismissive and addictive. Pessimism is like a drug. In the moment, it can feel good. Hell, it might even feel right, but pessimism is a slippery slope. It doesn’t take long to become a habitual pessimist, so proceed with caution.

If pessimism got anyone, anywhere, everyone in the world, would be on top of the world.

Before you know it, you’re living life in a perpetually foul mood, surrounded by other pessimists. That takes a toll, but you likely won’t care because misery loves company, and sometimes even bad company beats being alone.

Loose Cannon, Party of One, Your Table’s Ready

Now more than ever, I notice people are quick to react pessimistically to the topic of racism. I’ve witnessed meltdowns where people quickly go on a tirade declaring how not racist they are, without anyone calling them racist.

It’s bizarre psychology at work, but you can thank the history books for that.

When the topic of racism comes up, there is no reason to get mad about it. Racism is a real thing and we should be okay talking about it.

However, if the topic strikes a nerve deep inside, you need to ask yourself why.

It happens a lot with homophobia too, but that’s another discussion altogether.

For generations, rather than confront the why and how we feel a negative way about certain things, our instinct has been to shut it down, sweep it under a rug, and move on.

We can’t do that anymore. Those days are done.

We owe it to ourselves and everyone who comes after to address it now. It takes work to be a better person, and part of that work is acknowledging the problem to begin with.

I Feel Great Today

How’s that for optimism?

Actually, that’s not a lie. I feel pretty good today. But that’s a conscious decision I have to make, every day, to stay on the right side of a downward spiral.

At the end of the day, I have food on the table, a roof over my head, a bed to crawl in, and a dog to snuggle up to. All things considered, that’s not a bad place to be.

But I’ve Been Duped

For generations, we’ve all been duped in this country.

We all grew up with an easily digestible version of U.S. history where Columbus discovered America, pilgrims and Indians shared a meal, and white people saved the world from other white people and radical Islamic terrorists.

When I graduated high school in 1992, the Cold War was over. The Berlin Wall was coming down. The first Gulf War was done, and the 1993 bombing of the World Trade Center was still nine months away.

As far as I knew, Abraham Lincoln abolished slavery after the Civil War, and racism, segregation, and discrimination ended in 1964 when Lyndon B. Johnson signed the Civil Rights Act.

I was blissfully ignorant about the prevalence of racism throughout this county. When it came to race, the major problems were between street gangs in the urban neighborhoods of large cities, Rodney King was a one-off event, and the N word was off limits.

If only it were that simple...

The White Bubble

I was born in 1974; you can’t get much more GenX than that.

For our entire lives, GenX has idolized black professional athletes, comedians, actors, and musicians. The list is endless.

For GenX (and beyond), pop culture was (and continues to be) heavily influenced by black culture. Racial tension was entertainment in movies. Primetime in the 80’s and 90’s featured some of the most successful and funny predominantly black television series ever made.

For decades, nobody had to leave their home to see successful black Americans.

That is the white bubble. It’s the bubble I grew up in. It takes effort to see beyond it, which only gets harder the more comfortable you are in it.

It was a privilege to be in.

It wasn’t a bad place to be, but it certainly skewed my view of the progress our society had actually made, and the work we, as a society, had ahead of us.

Juneteenth

How old were you when you learned about Juneteenth? I’m ashamed to say, but I had no idea Juneteenth even existed until I was in my early 20’s. I remember asking what’s that? Is it new? Honestly, it’s shameful.

As a society, we’re doing ourselves a disservice when overlooking opportunities to come together and unite over things that we agree on. Shouldn’t the official liberation of the last remaining slaves in this country be one of those things?

I don’t know why Juneteenth isn’t a more celebrated holiday. It should be on par with Independence Day. But no, every year Juneteenth comes and goes as ignorant Americans hear about it for the first time over and over again.

What was that you said? All lives matter? Ok.

Black Lives Matter

That’s why I have such a problem with people saying all lives matter.

My daily reality tells me that my life matters. I don’t feel the need to brag about it, especially not while friends of mine are in such obvious pain.

All Lives Matter isn’t about any cause. It only came to be after Black Lives Matter became a movement.

ALM was a reaction because BLM made people uncomfortable. That’s it.

If all lives truly mattered, the world would look a lot different than it does right now.

Think of it this way.

Black Lives Matter is to Merry Christmas what All Lives Matter is to Happy Holidays.

Chew on that for a minute. Take as long as you need.

Now, on to my final point.

Breakfast Brand Controversy

Aunt Jemima is a brand that has been around for 130 years. Recently, the Quaker Oats Company, owner of Aunt Jemima, announced it is retiring the name and imagery of Aunt Jemima and people are losing their minds.

Before wasting your energy getting upset about a decision that’s already been made, consider the following reasons why the Aunt Jemima stokes so much emotion.

  • The Aunt Jemima brand was 49 years old when Hattie McDaniel won an Academy Award for her role as “Mammy” in Gone With the Wind in 1939.
  • While people had been enjoying Aunt Jemima products for half a century, the first black woman to win an Oscar couldn’t attend the premiere of her movie at a whites-only theater. Ms. McDaniel was only allowed at the Oscar ceremony as a favor and she had to sit at a segregated table apart from her white co-stars. She wasn’t allowed to attend the celebrations afterwards.
  • When she died in 1952, Ms. McDaniel’s final wish was to be buried in Hollywood Cemetery, but was denied because the graveyard was restricted to dead whites only.
Meanwhile, Aunt Jemima was on pantry shelves in white home across this country.
  • Aunt Jemima was America’s Favorite Mammy
  • While Aunt Jemima was allowed in white households throughout America, black Americans weren’t allowed to use white bathrooms.
  • While Aunt Jemima provided warm and buttery pancakes to white families, black folks couldn’t drink from the same water fountains or swim in the same pools.
  • While Aunt Jemima smiled her pearly whites from her happy packaging, black Americans were not allowed to vote, and had to sit in the back of the bus.
  • While white kids went in for a double dose of Aunt Jemima’s sweet syrup, black kids weren’t allowed in the same schools.

Of course white people loved Aunt Jemima. That’s no accident. That’s by design. But it’s time to open our minds, eyes, and ears.

Liking Aunt Jemima products doesn’t make you racist, but denying that the Aunt Jemima brand is rooted in racism does.

Just because it makes you feel good doesn’t mean it makes everyone feel good. A big part of combating racism is being cognizant of others’ feelings.

Great, you loved Aunt Jemima, but this isn’t about you and your love for high fructose corn syrup and gluten. There’s a whole history at your fingertips that will explain how we got here. But the decision to learn is on you.

Empathy goes a long way when being an ally.

On that note…

Free at Last, Free at Last, Aunt Jemima is Free at Last

Happy Juneteenth Aunt Jemima. You’re free to go.

The Right Side of History

Racism is about more than expressed hate. Many of us know how to treat others with kindness and compassion. That’s not what the current discussion is about. It’s deeper than that, and it’s a problem that can only be dealt with through awareness, fundamental understanding, and a genuine, heartfelt desire for change.

The tide is turning and each of us have a decision to make. You can either swim with the current or against it, and I don’t recommend exhausting yourself swimming against it. It’s not a good look; it makes you look like an asshole.

Progress is good. Progress is always welcome, and it’s heartening when it happens. It’s never too late, but that’s up to you.

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